I was about to write a post about Letting go and the word forgive popped into my mind. Letting go is a form of forgiving. So, I decided to look up the definition of the word forgive, and this is what I found:
To stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.
This is interesting. Nearly every source dictionary for the word forgive stated the same thing. So why is it that most people think that when you forgive someone you are letting the offender “off the hook” for what they did?
Clearly the definition of forgive is an act of letting yourself off the hook by releasing your anger and resentment. We all know or have a pretty good idea what stress does to our health (hint, stress is recognized as the #1 proxy killer disease today. The American Medical Association has noted that stress is the basic cause of more than 60% of all human illness and disease).
Holding anger and resentment does nothing but add to your own stress… the other person may not feel a thing. If anything, you might be giving the other person exactly what they want!
Think about it. When someone is doing something to hurt you, what are they trying to take from you? It has nothing to do with the money or the property or the words or the punches… it has everything to do with them wanting to separate you from your PEACE. And the more you spin out of control, the more upset you become, the more disconnected you become from your peace – the more you give them exactly what they want.
What happens to their plan when you let it go and maintain your peace? Who just won?
Read the definition of forgive again… forgiveness is an act of love to yourself. Let karma play itself out for any wrong someone else may have done towards you. One way or another, they will pay for their transgressions… we all will. So, in turn, don’t create any of your own bad karma by wishing them ill will…
The greatest revenge you can have is to be at peace. The greatest gift you can give yourself is connecting with your peace… and letting go/forgiveness is the key.
He/she who lives with the most peace wins!